Being a Wrestler’s Mom is Tough, and I Love it – by Jill Cuba

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We are a wrestling family.

My husband wrestled, his father wrestled, his brother wrestled, and our sons wrestle.

I used to think it was tough being a wrestler’s girlfriend (my husband and I have been together since high school), but I was wrong.

Being a wrestler’s mom is tougher, and I love it.

I love to watch our boys on the mat when they execute the perfect takedown.

To see them get out of a tight spot.

To see their faces when they set a cradle “nice and tight” and how they smile when their hand is lifted high in victory.

It would be great if all matches were like that, but as everyone knows, they’re not.


The toughness begins when they are on the receiving side of that takedown or cradle.

To watch them fight to get off their back and bridge just a little higher.

To see them struggle, knowing they are giving it all they have but still coming up short just breaks my heart.

I see them bent and twisted every which way but loose and hope it won’t result in an injury.

I watch them limp off of the mat and keep my fingers crossed an ice pack and ibuprofen will be all they need.

I watch them keep their composure as they shake the hand of the opponent and the coach that they just lost to.

I wouldn’t change a second of it.

Being wrestlers is teaching them so much.

Sure, it is making them physically stronger but what they are taking away from it mentally is immeasurable.

They are learning problem-solving, self-control, mental stamina but most importantly, self-reliance.

That is what I want them to take away from this sport.

It is just them and their opponent for 6 minutes.

No one else is going to step in and “drive them home” like in baseball, and I like that.

They also play baseball, and in baseball, if they have an “off” game, the team can still bring home a win but in wrestling, they understand, there are no “off days.”

I know they learn this both in wins and in losses.

It is all up to them, and there are so many situations in life they are yet to face where it will be totally up to them to figure something out, and I know they will be ready for it.

I know wrestling is turning them into young men who will be ready and willing to “take on the world.”

Jill Cuba

Wrestling Mom


They call it the greatest sport on earth for a reason.
It just took me 26 years to figure out why.


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on May 30, 2014
This book is so much more than a “wrestling book” or a “baseball book”!
6 Minutes Wrestling With Life is a book about life. About dedication. About always believing. About heart. About love. About teamwork, passion, and a singleness of purpose. Mr. Passaro draws from the lessons he learned as a wrestler and baseball coach to find the strength to confront every parent’s worst nightmare, an injury to their child. In doing so, and writing about it, he teaches us how to live our lives each and every day.
Every parent should get this book. It is a quick read but be sure to block out 3 hours or so because you won’t be able to stop.

on August 28, 2014

A book that changed the way I look at life. My wife and two 14-year-old boys have also read the book and we all agree that it is not only an inspiring story but one that is life changing. A very quick read and one that is difficult to put down. This is a must read for anyone that has kids. It is a reminder of just how precious life is. You do not have to be a high school wrestling fan to enjoy this book.

on November 23, 2014

As a coach, a father, a husband, and just someone always striving to have a positive effect, this book hit me on a million different levels. I bought this book because it had a wrestling title but I did not have great expectations. Like most others who reviewed this book, I could not put it down and it had a profound impact on me. After reading this book I regularly find myself now moving beyond the thought of sacrificing one part of my life for another, and simply saying “I want both”. Thank you, John, for writing this book!

Compelling and inspiring!

on March 18, 2013
As a wrestler, coach, and the father of a child severely affected by autism, John Passaro’s book has truly inspired me. It is gripping from page 1. Whether you can relate to wrestling, special needs parenting or neither, no matter what challenges you face, do not pass go, go directly to 6 Minutes and start reading. John’s wisdom will help you rise above. 

Jason Bross, Founder – Pinning Down Autism

Thank you, John

Tom Magnani on July 21, 2014
6 Minutes Wrestling with Life is a true treasure. What Religion calls holy, John Passaro has captured. Not only on paper but in his daily life. At 61years old, I finally found a book I could not put down. I read a comment on the wrestling forum that said the book was not about wrestling, this could not be further from the truth. It’s everything about wrestling. It’s about truth, honesty, hard work, family, commitment, humility, and perseverance. And everything in between. This is a book for everyone. It’s timeless and for every age. From John to his wife, to their kids, it’s heartfelt and real. It puts life in a perspective that everyone must experience and understand. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
This will be my next gift to my entire family and friends.
Tom Magnani HHH wrestling 1979- 2010

Truly inspirational

on March 28, 2013

I couldn’t put this book down from start to finish. It was beyond inspiring. An amazing story of love, dedication, hope and the will to never give up. I am proud to have read his families story.

on March 20, 2013

I have known the Passaro family for many years through competing against them and trying to prepare my kids to wrestle against them (a very daunting task) but I did not know about the tragic events that they have gone through until I read this book. I started the book and completed it in one sitting, I could not put it down. As a parent of three boys myself I totally felt the pain that the author was going through, the struggle to help his daughter while trying to keep his family with a modicum of normalcy was gripping. This book is an inspiration to anybody who knows how to love their family and would move heaven and earth to save them if they were in trouble. I highly recommend this book, whether you’re a parent or not, this story will find a place in your heart. Bravo to you and your family Mr. Passaro it has been a pleasure and an honor to hear your story!!!

on March 17, 2013

Each chapter is better and better and you can’t put it down.
Sadness, strength, desire, love, hope & the will to keep going…this book has it!
It’s a great book and it makes you think about your own family and what if?

You need to read it! It’s a great book for anyone!

on November 24, 2013
Simply the best book I have ever read. Every person who reads this book will be blessed by each lesson and experience John shares with us. His love and commitment to his family is incredibly powerful. You will be filled with hope, inspiration, and commitment to whatever your passion is by reading John’s inspiring and captivating book. I read it in one day…you will do the same. You will not want to put it down. It will inspire every person who reads it to dig deep for their greatness….and to never give up, EVER. A true gift to all, it will inspire each reader to set big goals.
“Amazing awaits when you work hard enough.”
“Champions muster up a little more.”
“There is something inside of you that is greater than any obstacle.”
Great book for athletes, students, parents, teachers, coaches. Great book for all….hopefully, each will be as inspired to share it with young people so they can be equally inspired. Many blessings to John and to his family…Miracles are coming…you just have to believe.

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